after the honeymoon with Laura Meyer

Gottman Methods Couples Therapy (GMCT) is an evidence-based approach with over forty years of research on couples interactive patterns that are highly predictive of relationship failure and divorce. Beyond the diagnosis, GMCT also offer solutions—evidence-based interventions that are effective in reducing conflict, building friendship and restoring passion, and bringing shared meaning into your relationship. Their model—The Sound Relationship House (SRH) is built on Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, seeking to build and rebuild your relationship through 3 important blueprints:

• The Friendship and Intimacy Blueprint (SRH Levels 1-4)
• The Conflict Blueprint (SRH Level 5)
• The Shared Meaning Blueprint (SRH Levels 6-7)

• Evidence-based and effective: It is supported by extensive research that has proven its effectiveness in helping couples improve satisfaction and conflict resolution.
• Structured and focused: The method follows a specific process, which keeps therapy focused and motivated. An initial assessment helps create a customized plan tailored to the couple's unique needs and challenges.
• Focus on practical skills: It teaches concrete skills and strategies couples can use outside of therapy, such as managing conflict, increasing fondness and admiration, and building shared meaning.
• Addresses a wide range of issues: The therapy helps couples improve communication, build trust, enhance intimacy, and create a stronger friendship within their relationship.
• Empowers couples for the long term: The goal is to provide couples with the tools to handle future ups and downs, helping them become "masters" of their own relationship.
• Normalizes conflict: It helps couples understand that conflict is a normal part of a relationship and teaches them how to manage it effectively, rather than letting it lead to distance or breakdown. 

• 67% of all first marriages fail
• 60% of all second marriages fail 
• 73 % of all third marriages fail 
• Every 13 seconds a divorce happens in the United States

• 69% of problems couples face are UNSOLVABLE—they are Perpetual Problems.
• 94% of relationship failures are caused by the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse—CRITICISM, CONTEMPT, DEFENSIVENESS, STONEWALLING. 
• 86% of divorces are the result of CONTEMPT—the number one predictor of divorce sends the message, "I'm better than you. You are such a sorry individual."
• 16% of your Perpetual Problems are GRID-LOCKED issues—fundamental differences in personality, values, goals and dreams.

• 5:1 is the  "Magic Ratio" for stable couples a.k.a the Masters. Such couples have healthy Emotional Bank Accounts, where for one complaint or a moment of tension,  there are at least five positive interactions (e.g., a compliment, smile, shared laugh, or show of affection.
• 20:1 is where the Masters are killing it! During everyday, non-conflict interactions, the ratio for happy couples is even higher with significantly higher deposits than withdrawals.
• 0.8:1 is more indicative of unhappy or unstable couples a.k.a the Disasters. Such couples are depleted in their Emotional Bank Accounts, with more withdrawals than there are deposits.